Make friends with criticism
At some or the other point in life, we all have faced sharp criticism and acted by vocalizing our response or have tried to maintain a dignified silence. Be it the workplace or home, criticism is a universal phenomenon, very difficult to escape. On being criticized due to our natural behavioral responses, we do not pay heed to the reason behind the criticism directed at us. We found ourselves sulking and cursing the people who scrutinize us on trivial issues. However, when criticized or facing sharp scrutiny, our first reaction should be to grab hold of the comment made and work through it rather than grumbling over it. In most scenarios, two types of criticisms are targeted at people – one which plays a constructive role while the other is merely an expression of negative feelings towards the target individual. To handle any kind of criticism and your worst critic, our focus should be entirely on knowing the origin and not the words.
As is said ” A wise person knows that there is something to learn from everyone”, hence, criticism can be utilized for motivation and individual improvement, if taken with positive stride. This may sound unnatural or weird but when a sharp scrutiny can be used as a weapon to bring down someone, they why not in pulling up! Typically, people criticize with a purpose in mind, which may or may not be used to brutally affect the person in target. Already in practice, constructive criticism is an instrumental tool is used by our family and friends to muster up in improving ourselves as an individual. The disruptive aspect is preferred by people who want to target someone out of jealousy or other vested interests. Disruptive criticism, as the term suggests, will usually come from people who are unable to match up the level of thinking, action or skill of an individual. Harsh scrutineers direct feelings of ego and self-defense in the form of criticism, this is the reason, we should exercise impeccable control over our mental with relation to vocal responsiveness.
Leveraging every type of criticism
Majority of people tend to or choose to ignore the criticism targeted at them. And, we often find ourselves reiterating that “Ignorance is Bliss”. There are moments when hidden feelings of a person comes forward in the form of anger or aggression, when they have go through a scrutiny that degrades self-confidence. Loosing hold of mental or verbal reaction is a widely criticized way of reaction at the workplace or at home. A more wiser option would be to handle this rather than keep juggling with it in the inside. Criticisms which are verbal and puts forth the underlying ugly feelings of a person, needs to be carefully tackled. People who are prone to complaining nature prefer to boost their powerful selves and bring down the competition and prove a supremacy. Once the targeted individual is put through harsh comments, he should quickly grab hold of the meaning behind the comment and think about using it in their favor. We cannot ignore that both types of criticism (constructive & disruptive) carry elements that can accelerate improvements. With this planned approach, accepting criticism and mending the responses accordingly, can actually help in establishing their abilities, further.
Now, this question would be fiddling in your mind – why criticism should be accepted, when the statement does not match the facts. A much obvious answer to this question is when we accept a criticizing comment, we open our mind to work through that comment so that we leverage it in our favor. Later on, after examining the origin of that comment/criticism, we can choose whether to shut the complaint with facts or create a suitable solution. To be able to turn the game in our favor, a conscious amount of mental control and inner capacity building is highly required. In order to register a win over your critics, your next step should be on crushing the attack (with peaceful means, of course). To defeat a critic, it is mandatory to practice patience, good listening and composure. Wrapping this idea up, making a habit of converting harsh criticism into a favorable benefit is a fine art to master. By control the negatives and growing through, we not become better individual but also master our own selves. So the next time, when you face a harsh comment, you already know what to do and how to respond with a smart strategy.
End Note: Criticisms won’t stop; people will not cease to criticize. We have to prepare ourselves and become almost like a warrior to deal with them; a warrior with not a sword but a bunch of roses. Keep memorizing that mere words from a critic cannot define what our reality as an individual in existence.
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